Visiting a Cemetery can be a pleasant and rewarding experience. If you go be sure and try to locate the Sexton as they can usually provide you with additional information of the plot you are looking for.


Gravestone Rubbings Dos and Don’t

From “Gravestone Rubbing for Beginners,” a leaflet available from the Association for Gravestone Studies.

Gravestone rubbing is fun. It is possible to collect some beautiful artwork that can be framed and displayed. A carver’s skill can be preserved, or an ancestor’s stone recorded and appreciated through this craft. However, gravestone rubbing is also controversial. Especially in cemeteries where a restoration project is in progress, rubbing is often banned. This is to enable the restorers to have an opportunity to preserve all the stones possible before more damage occurs. Even if a restoration project is not in progress, if the those who care for the cemetery have determined there are very fragile stones there which may be damaged if pressure is applied to the surface as happens in rubbing, there may be prohibitions in place. So be sure to check.

Below are some Do’s and Don’ts that will make your experience in the cemetery a good one.

Please Do

  1. Check (with cemetery superintendent, cemetery commissioners, town clerk, historical society, whoever is in charge) to see if rubbing is allowed in the cemetery.
  2. Get permission and/or a permit as required.
  3. Rub only solid stones in good condition. Check for any cracks, evidence of previous breaks and adhesive repairs, defoliating stone with air pockets behind the face of the stone that will collapse under pressure of rubbing, etc
  4. Become educated; learn how to rub responsibly.
  5. Use a soft brush and plain water to do any necessary stone cleaning.
  6. Make certain that your paper covers the entire face of the stone; secure with masking tape.
  7. Use the correct combination of paper and waxes or inks; avoid magic marker-type pens or other permanent color materials.
  8. Test paper and color before working on stone to be certain that no color bleeds through.
  9. Rub gently, carefully.
  10. Leave the stone in better condition than you found it.
  11. Take all trash with you; replace any grave site materials that you may have disturbed.

Please Don’t

  1. Don’t attempt to rub deteriorating marble or sandstone, or any unsound or weakened stone (for example, a stone that sounds hollow when gently tapped or a stone that is flaking, splitting, blistered, cracked, or unstable on its base).
  2. Don’t use detergents, soaps, vinegar, bleach, or any other cleaning solutions on the stone, no matter how mild!
  3. Don’t use shaving cream, chalk, graphite, dirt, or other concoctions in an attempt to read worn inscriptions. Using a large mirror to direct bright sunlight diagonally across the face of a gravemarker casts shadows in indentations and makes inscriptions more visible.
  4. Don’t use stiff-bristled or wire brushes, putty knives, nail files, or any metal object to clean or to remove lichen from the stone; Soft natural bristled brushes, whisk brooms, or wooden sticks are usually OK if used gently and carefully.
  5. Don’t attempt to remove stubborn lichen. Soft lichen may be thoroughly soaked with plain water and then loosened with a gum eraser or a wooden popsicle stick. Be gentle. Stop if lichen does not come off easily.
  6. Don’t use spray adhesives, scotch tape, or duct tape. Use masking tape.
  7. Don’t use any rubbing method that you have not actually practiced under supervision.
  8. Don’t leave masking tape, wastepaper, colors, etc., at the grave site